Archive for January, 2010

RRR for 2010

January 18, 2010

Happy New Year! Here we are in 2010 just beginning a whole new year full of possibilities. How are your resolutions going? What are they? Have you been to the gym? How’s the work-life balance? Are you being nicer? More patient? Are the numbers on the scale going down? Just checking.

We begin with the best of intentions. We really do. What happens? Life gets in the way. Stress. Work. Kids. We get tense, start to disconnect, get distant, bicker and then move into full blown questioning the big things. If you live in Vancouver, the weather doesn’t help. That’s how it goes for most of us.

We propose we all try to do it differently.

Let’s all commit to RRR. Relationship Repair Remedy. Just say it RRR (those pirates were on to something). Doesn’t that feel good? RRR. It is like a cathartic release. A moment when you can let out your irritation and it reminds you that you are triggered and can choose to come back. RRR.

So what’s next? Giving yourself a moment to say RRR will remind you that it is up to you to give your relationship the repair remedy. The remedy may have to include the biggest two words the English language, “I’m sorry”. C’mon try it, you can do it. It may involve no words, just a smile or a hug. It may involve asking for a dialogue and beginning it with an appreciation of your partner. It may mean you have to sit with the discomfort because your partner needs some space, give it to them and be grown-up about it. This might mean you need to go for a walk. It may mean something else, you decide on the repair.

Let’s face it. We all screw up and we need to do a repair job. Unfortunately because of our old brains we tend to just make it worse. Blame is usually the main culprit followed up by criticism. For 2010 shine the spotlight on yourself and try the RRR factor. You were part of the rupture so try to repair it regardless of who started it. This will change things dramatically, in a good way.

Dare ya –

Think about your unique Relationship Repair Rescue plan. What’s your RRR going to be? Talk to your partner about it and develop a resolution for 2010 that will really make a difference where it counts.

Til next time…

Yours really truly,


Up Up and Away…Our love blog!

January 11, 2010

A blog?

Why you might ask?

It really comes down to just one thing.

We wonder what happens to all of you after you leave the Getting the Love You Want weekend. We want to stay connected, offer support and continue to help you all create the relationship you want.

It may sound cheesy but we really believe in this work and care about what happens to all of you after you leave the workshop.

Where do you go?

How do you do?

Do you incorporate what you’ve learned into your everyday life?

We are pretty sure that you, like all of us, have some great times, with more connection and fun.  Yet, you still have to navigate the landmines of your relationship, especially the let downs. Take it from us, they happen to everyone.  This is why we want to keep sharing common, everyday thoughts and ideas about how you can keep that lovin’ feeling after the workshop.

Ok, true confessions…

We think it will help us too! Let’s face it, we all need to support each other and keep things real. We are all on the journey of relationship. It’s not like we have it all figured out either. We want to do this because we believe it will help all of us.

This is very new for us to do so we see it as a work in progress. Your feedback is greatly appreciated. What do you want us to focus on and include in our blog? Let us know!

Our plan is to blog about once a week. It will be one or both of us. We will write about a topic, experience or idea we hope you will relate to and offer some suggestions or challenges to work on that week with your partner. This section will be called ”dare ya”.

By the way, we have nothing to sell. No money will change hands. All we really want is to stay connected and offer support to all of us in relationship. Stay tuned!

Dare ya –

What is one thing you really do love about who your partner is as a person? Think about it. Now go tell them……

Yours really truly,

T & M