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RRR for 2010

January 18, 2010

Happy New Year! Here we are in 2010 just beginning a whole new year full of possibilities. How are your resolutions going? What are they? Have you been to the gym? How’s the work-life balance? Are you being nicer? More patient? Are the numbers on the scale going down? Just checking.

We begin with the best of intentions. We really do. What happens? Life gets in the way. Stress. Work. Kids. We get tense, start to disconnect, get distant, bicker and then move into full blown questioning the big things. If you live in Vancouver, the weather doesn’t help. That’s how it goes for most of us.

We propose we all try to do it differently.

Let’s all commit to RRR. Relationship Repair Remedy. Just say it RRR (those pirates were on to something). Doesn’t that feel good? RRR. It is like a cathartic release. A moment when you can let out your irritation and it reminds you that you are triggered and can choose to come back. RRR.

So what’s next? Giving yourself a moment to say RRR will remind you that it is up to you to give your relationship the repair remedy. The remedy may have to include the biggest two words the English language, “I’m sorry”. C’mon try it, you can do it. It may involve no words, just a smile or a hug. It may involve asking for a dialogue and beginning it with an appreciation of your partner. It may mean you have to sit with the discomfort because your partner needs some space, give it to them and be grown-up about it. This might mean you need to go for a walk. It may mean something else, you decide on the repair.

Let’s face it. We all screw up and we need to do a repair job. Unfortunately because of our old brains we tend to just make it worse. Blame is usually the main culprit followed up by criticism. For 2010 shine the spotlight on yourself and try the RRR factor. You were part of the rupture so try to repair it regardless of who started it. This will change things dramatically, in a good way.

Dare ya –

Think about your unique Relationship Repair Rescue plan. What’s your RRR going to be? Talk to your partner about it and develop a resolution for 2010 that will really make a difference where it counts.

Til next time…

Yours really truly,